Why Putting Your Finger In Your Selfie Will Give You A Warm, Fuzzy Feeling Inside
Random acts of kindness are trending and these celebs are helping spread the word.
The challenge: Do one small random act of kindness and post it with a selfie holding up one finger. Then, challenge your friends to do the same.
What's the point? To take the power away from bullies by creating a positive environment.
Lily Collins took the challenge. "Smiled at a stranger who looked sad. He smiled back. Spread the happy in #1Act of kindness with @bystanderrevolution. @ciara your turn!"
If you're thinking what she did was no big deal, you'd be right. Being kind is super simple, but it's powerful.
Demi Lovato is known for speaking against bullying, so she's all over this one. Here's her first random act of kindness for the 1 Act Challenge. "Bought the lady behind me a juice at Whole Foods today."
Melissa Joan Hart did it for a few people. "My random act of kindness today was that I let people cut in front of me during rush hour. I now challenge @taysprizzle and @brookeburke"
One small thing can change a person's whole day.
Can I have a "woot woot" for Jason Collins, the first professional athlete of a major sport to come out as gay? Now he's inspiring others to be stand up to bullying by spreading kindness. Here's his general shoutout to join the 1 Act Challenge.
Once isn't enough for Jenna Elfman. She's planning on doing the 1 Act Challenge every day. "I rearranged 2 overhead bins of luggage on the plane this week to help a mother of an infant who needed help with her bag."
Saving the best for last: Jeremy Grace is a high school student from Canada who lives with cerebral palsy. He knows what it's like to be different. He started "The Up High Movement" which is about spreading kindness instead of bullying. Every day, he greets hundreds of students with a high-five, and they love it. He's also joined the 1 Act Challenge.
See more celebs in this 30-second video about taking a stand against bullying by spreading kindness.
Before you say "They're just bragging" or "Why can't they do it without telling people?" you should know that these celebs are part of of a bigger anti-bullying campaign. Bystander Revolution asked them to help share the "1 Act Challenge" as a way to encourage kindness. Yes, people do kind things every day without posting, but the point here is to post. The reason? To take the power away from bullies by showing the power of kindness.
What will your "1 Act" be? Take your selfie, post it and challenge your friends. Help it catch on.
There's a reason why some people can perfectly copy accents, and others can't
Turns out, there's a neurodivergent link.
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Have you ever had that friend who goes on vacation for four days to London and comes back with a full-on Queen's English posh accent? "Oooh I left my brolly in the loo," they say, and you respond, "But you're from Colorado!" Well, there are reasons they (and many of us) do that, and usually it's on a pretty subconscious level.
It's called "accent mirroring," and it's actually quite common with people who are neurodivergent, particularly those with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). According Neurolaunch, the self-described "Free Mental Health Library," "Accent mirroring, also known as accent adaptation or phonetic convergence, is the tendency to unconsciously adopt the accent or speech patterns of those around us. This linguistic chameleon effect is not unique to individuals with ADHD, but it appears to be more pronounced and frequent in this population."
Essentially, when people have conversations, we're constantly "scanning" for information—not just the words we're absorbing, but the inflection and tone. "When we hear an accent, our brains automatically analyze and categorize the phonetic features, prosody, and intonation patterns," writes Neurolaunch. For most, this does result in copying the accent of the person with whom we're speaking. But those with ADHD might be more sensitive to auditory cues. This, "coupled with a reduced ability to filter out or inhibit the impulse to mimic…could potentially explain the increased tendency for accent mirroring."
While the article explains further research is needed, they distinctly state that, "Accent mirroring in individuals with ADHD often manifests as an unconscious mimicry of accents in social situations. This can range from subtle shifts in pronunciation to more noticeable changes in intonation and speech rhythm. For example, a person with ADHD might find themselves unconsciously adopting a Southern drawl when conversing with someone from Texas, even if they’ve never lived in the South themselves."
People are having their say online. On the subreddit r/ADHDWomen, a thread began: "Taking on accents is an ADHD thing?" The OP shares, "My whole life, I've picked up accents. I, myself, never noticed, but everyone around me would be like, 'Why are you talking like that??' It could be after I watched a show or movie with an accent or after I've traveled somewhere with a different accent than my 'normal.'
They continue, "Apparently, I pick it up fast, but it fades out slowly. Today... I'm scrolling Instagram, I watch a reel from a comedian couple (Darcy and Jeremy. IYKYK) about how Darcy (ADHD) picks up accents everywhere they go. It's called ADHD Mirroring??? And it's another way of masking."
(The OP is referring to Darcy Michaels and his husband Jeremy Baer, who are both touring comedians based in Canada.)
Hundreds of people on the Reddit thread alone seem to relate. One comments, "Omfg I've done this my whole life; I'll even pick up on the pauses/spaces when I'm talking to someone who is ESL—but English is my first language lol."
Sometimes, it can be a real issue for those around the chameleon. "I accidentally mimicked a waitress's weird laugh one time. As soon as she was out of earshot, my family started to reprimand me, but I was already like 'oh my god I don’t know why I did that, I feel so bad.'"
Many commenters on TikTok were shocked to find out this can be a sign of ADHD. One jokes, "Omg, yes, at a store the cashier was talking to me and she was French. She's like 'Oh are you French too? No, I'm not lol. I'm very east coast Canada."
And some people just embrace it and make it work for them. "I mirror their words or phrase! I’m 30. I realized I start calling everyone sweetie cause my manager does & I work at coffee shop."