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Remember when millennials (born between 1981 and 1996), once known as the participation trophy generation, ruined everything from cable TV to diamonds to department stores? Well, it’s 2025, and the first group of elder millennials is now entering middle age (gulp!), and the older generations are saying "join the club," as long as you don't mean nightclub. No one over 40 has any business in a nightclub.

While entering middle age may be a massive bummer to many millennials, Carly Box on TikTok is doing her best to kill the notion that aging is such a bad thing. In a new TikTok post, she’s celebrating the “best thing” about getting older: eating dinner with friends at 5 pm. If millennials were known for killing everything, they're starting middle age just like the older generations.

“I am 42 years old and I'm about to go out to dinner with one of my best friends. And here's what I reckon is one of the best things about being middle aged is that it's 4:40,” Carly revealed in a video with over 148,000 views. “It's 4:40. I'm about to drive down the road to meet her for dinner at five. We both agreed that five PM was an excellent time to have dinner and some drinks.”

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Being middle aged has some epic positives. This is my favourite. #middleaged #dinner #friendship #earlydinner #fyp #40s

“Do you know why?” she asked her audience. “Cause it's sensible. Because then we get home at a sensible hour and then we're not too hungover and then we wake up in the morning relatively fresh cause we went at a sensible hour.”

A lot of Carly’s followers agreed with her embrace of early dining. “Also, restaurants are quieter when you go before 6 pm LOL you actually get to hear each other talk,” one viewer wrote. “Last time we went out, we moved to another section of the restaurant so we could hear better. I was like We are 800 years old, haha,” Carly responded. “My much younger friend messaged me at 8 pm to meet here for wine at 930.... girl, it's Wednesday and I'm cozy, absolutely not,” another added.

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People are eating dinner earlier than before the pandemic

Given recent dining out trends, it appears millennials started embracing early dinner a while back. Since COVID-19, there has been a sea change in the times that Americans make restaurant reservations.

In 2023, the Wall Street Journal reported a considerable increase in people making reservations earlier in the day. According to Yelp data, restaurants currently seat 10% of diners between 2 p.m. and 5 p.m. That number has doubled since 2019, when only 5% of people went to restaurants between those hours. People are also taking Uber rides to dinner earlier than before, with a 10% increase in rides that are being given between 4 pm and 5 p.m. and a 9% drop in rides after 8 p.m.


The Robb Report says that the primary reason for the change in people’s eating habits is that more people work from home and can get to a restaurant before the sun goes down. Plus, when you spend all day in the house, you want to get out and enjoy life as early as possible.

Ultimately, Carly doesn’t go out to eat early because she’s too—it’s just a more enjoyable experience. “Honestly, those of you that have eight pm dinner bookings, you're missing out,” she concludes her video. "Early dinner's where it's at.”

Martin is an 86-year-old gay man from the U.K. — who came out at age 85.

For all those years, he hid a big part of who he truly was. "It's tough being an outsider," he explained, sitting alone in his dimly lit apartment.

Now, he deeply regrets waiting so long to come out. "I missed the boat in regards to finding a lovely partner — a soulmate that I could love, live with."


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In a tear-jerking new ad video for 5 Gum, Martin encouraged young LGBTQ people to live out and proud now — not later.

"Go ahead, do it," he advised softly. "You've got it. You owe it to yourself."

But, as you'll see in the video, a few young LGBTQ people had surprise messages for Martin too (story continues below):

"Your story inspired me to be true to myself and to be proud of who I am," one young person explained to Martin in a video message.

"[Martin's story] made me very happy to be in the place that I am now," another young person, sitting alongside their partner, explained. "It made me realize how lucky we both are to be where we are right now."

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One young man inspired by Martin even came out to his father, recorded the interaction, and sent it to the 86-year-old.

"It must have taken a lot of courage," Martin explains in an email to Upworthy. "Now he can be a much happier guy!"

Martin's story and the video responses from young LGBTQ people were completely genuine and did not involve actors, 5 Gum confirmed to Upworthy.

While Martin may wish he had come out sooner, he's now living freer than he's ever been. And that's worth celebrating.

He recently went to his first Pride parade, for instance and says it was "a marvelous experience."

GIF via 5 Gum/YouTube.

"I danced all along waving my little flag and connected to thank all our supporters who got up early," Martin says. "Lots of hugs and kisses all the way to thank them."

Happy Pride, Martin. 🌈

Just to note: Upworthy and 5 Gum do not have a business partnership. We just love cute, important videos. That's all.

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The heart-wrenching reason grandparents should see themselves on-screen.

Ageism is alive and well in Hollywood. Is it harming seniors' health?

Could casting decisions in Hollywood be shortening our lifespans?

It may seem like a provocative thought, but it's not as far-fetched as you think.

When you look at the 25 films nominated for Best Picture at the Oscars over the past three years, less than 12% of the characters in them were 60 years or older — with very few being women or minorities — according to a new study from Stacy L. Smith, director of the Media, Diversity, and Social Change initiative at the University of Southern California Annenberg.


What’s more, few of those characters played roles pivotal to the plot, and many were misrepresented or created with ageist stereotypes in mind, Smith found.

This is a problem with ramifications felt far outside Hollywood.

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Past studies suggest stereotypes about aging can have devastating effects on older people.

Research out of Australia's Charles Sturt University in 2015 found negative stereotyping about growing older — that it will bring about loneliness and frailty, for example — influences how older people see themselves and their peers. This, in turn, can effect a variety of other important factors relating to how a senior's life unfolds: how fast they recover from illness, their overall mental health and well-being — even how long they live.

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When Hollywood does nothing to counter these stereotypes — and, in many cases, exacerbates the problem — it can cause harm off-screen.

"If I don't see myself in the movies, what does that say about me?" Yogi Hernandez Suarez told NPR. She's a chief medical officer at health insurance provider Humana, which funded the USC study. "Am I not a valued person? Should I be preparing for a future, or will I just sort of disappear at a certain time?"

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Media representation isn't just a matter of political correctness — it's a matter of bettering lives.

Thanks to the hard work of activists and increasingly discontented moviegoers, the 2017 Academy Awards on Feb. 26, 2017, are more racially diverse than they've been in years. Films like "Moonlight" and "Hidden Figures" — and the artists who brought those projects to life — have snagged much-deserved nods, bringing stories centered around the experiences of people of color, women, and the LGBTQ community into the mainstream. To audiences around the globe, that's made a difference.

In the same vein, it's crucial the stories we see on big and small screens include complex older characters living rich lives and adding value to the narratives which they're part of — not used as tropes or glorified extras.

After all, our grandparents are watching. They deserve better.