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Chris Stanley interviews Timm Hanly.

LGBTQ influencer Chris Stanley was doing on-the-street reporting on June 2nd at the WeHo Pride Parade in West Hollywood, California, when he ran into a straight guy with the best reaction to the event.

WeHo is one of the largest annual Pride celebrations in the world, drawing hundreds of thousands of people every June.

Australian TV star Timm Hanly was chomping down an ice cream cone when he ran into Stanley, who asked why he was there. He calmly told Stanley that he is “straight, not gay” and just there “for the vibes.” Hanly added that his family was visiting from Australia and it was their second day in the city.

Hanly appeared on “The Bachelorette Australia” in 2019 and “Bachelor in Paradise” in 2020 and then married his wife, Briana. The couple had a baby last October. However, his newfound domestic bliss didn’t stop Hanly from enjoying the festivities. When Stanley asked if the gays threw a good party, he adamantly agreed.


“F**king’ oath. One hundred percent. No one does it better, really,” Hanly replied. (For those who don’t speak fluent Aussie, “oath” is a very affirmative version of “yes,” like when American Gen Zers say “bet.”)

Hanly doubled down on his LGBTQ allyship when he grabbed the mic after being asked how he feels when hit on by gay men. “Oh, I love this,” he responded. “Let’s say I’m walking down the street and a gay guy is like looking at me. That’s as good as a girl looking at me. That counts. That’s as good for my ego as a hot chick looking at me,” Hanly said as Chris laughed.

The video captures what many people believe LGBTQ pride is all about love, acceptance, and having a good time. Many people thought that Hanly was the perfect example of straight allyship. “I think so many people loved it because there was zero toxic masculinity at all,” Chris told Upworthy. “He was just a dude who stumbled across something gay and admired it for what it was without any hostility involved. Something we need more of.”

“My favorite response was when he said he’s ‘just here for the vibes,’” Stanley continued.

A lot of the commenters agree with Stanley.

“And that’s how straight guys who are comfortable in their own sexuality should react to [a Pride parade],” Masterwill7 wrote. “Can Tim and his wife stay in the US and teach the men around here how to be better?” HJomckinney_added.

To further his quest to understand what Pride means in America. Stanley recently created a 22-minute short film about one of the smallest Pride celebrations in America in Morgantown, West Virginia.

“Imagine a Pride celebration so small, it’s almost a secret,” he says in the opening scene. The film explains what life is like for LGBTQ Americans in a state where intolerance is a part of life. “Everyone in West Virginia has a gay neighbor, but not everyone in West Virginia wants to talk about the fact that they have a gay neighbor,” Dustin Blankenship, from nearby Granville, says in the film.

I Went to the Smallest Pride in America! | LGBTQ+ Documentary

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Maybelle Blair at the Tribeca Film Festival.

Thirty years ago, one of the greatest sports movies of all time (IMO), "A League of Their Own," was released. It's hard to believe it's been 30 years since many of us first learned about the All-American Girls Baseball League. What people may not realize is that the story isn't over. A new series, created by Abbi Jacobson, is coming to Amazon Prime Video in August. The promo tour has already begun and it looks like the creators of the show are featuring women who were actually a part of the AAGPBL.

One of those women is Maybelle "All the way Mae" Blair, who played for the Peoria Redwings. During a recent panel at the Tribeca Film Festival, Blair, 95, decided that was as good a time as any to come out.

“I hid for 75, 85 years and this is actually basically the first time I’ve ever come out," Blair said to rousing chorus of cheers.


The show's official Instagram account shared the video of Blair with the caption: "For the majority of her life, sports legend 95-year old AAGPBL player, Maybelle Blair felt like she had to hide her authentic self. Today she came out publicly for the first time. We couldn't be happier for her, and continue to push for love, acceptance, and education on and off the field."

“I think it’s a great opportunity for these young girl ball players to come [to] realize that they’re not alone, and you don’t have to hide,” Blair said, speaking about younger generations of female athletes.

Sometimes it's easy to forget that there was a time where being "out" was actually dangerous, especially for women. In the 1940s, women were already discriminated against. If you were out as a lesbian, your options for work and survival were incredibly limited. While there is sometimes an assumption that women in sports are queer, back when Blair was playing baseball, she couldn't be open about it. According to a league history from the AAGPBL website, "femininity was a high priority." Yes, femme lesbians existed, but it wasn't something they could be open about. The women couldn't even go out without a chaperone!

Queerness is baked into the fabric of the reboot, which Blair was hired as a consultant for. Just because it wasn't talked about in the past doesn't mean those women didn't exist, as Blair obviously shows.

“I thought I was the only one in the world,” Blair said during the panel, as reported by IndieWire. She added that the community of the AAGPBL allowed her a safe place.

IndieWire also reported that Jamie Babbit, director of the show's pilot episode, spent time at the AAGPBL convention in Cooperstown, where the National Baseball Hall of Fame is, after being hired. “There was a queerness in the air and just really joyful, amazing women who I just wanted to hang out with. I really wanted to bring that joy to the show,” she said.

In addition to coming out and being a consultant for the show, Blair has another mission: getting the International Women’s Baseball Center museum built. The Los Angeles Times reported that there is land available in Rockford, Illinois, across from where the Rockford Peaches used to play baseball. But they need funds. Blair, a tireless advocate for baseball and softball for women, is determined to help make it happen.

“I hope to God that I can get the shovel going into the ground before I’m on the other side of the grass because I’ve got to live long enough to see this happen," she said.

Maybelle Blair is truly an inspiration, and I'm so glad we get to share her story.

London's annual Pride parade got off to a bit of a bumpy and disappointing start.

A number of women representing a group calling itself "Get the L Out" moved to the front of the parade, blocking it from starting the march.

The group, whose website states is a collection of "lesbian and feminist individuals and organizations, opposing the increasingly anti-lesbian and misogynistic LGBT movement and the erasure of lesbians," was there to protest against transgender people and activism.


Most parade-goers embraced the spirit of unity. Photo by John Phillips/Getty Images for The AA.

Trans rights have been a bit of a hot topic in the U.K., with recent controversy over plans to reform the country's Gender Recognition Act, which would make it easier for trans people to update their legal documents to accurately reflect their gender. The group of protesters oppose this change.

They handed out pamphlets spreading anti-trans talking points about cisgender (another word for "non-trans") children being forced to transition (this isn't happening), of the movement "coercing lesbians to have sex with men" (no, there's not a movement to coerce people into sleeping with people they're not attracted to), and that trans people reinforce sexist stereotypes (this is another common misperception).

The validity of those arguments is neither here nor there, though, to be honest. The group's aim, to create the appearance of a rift between trans people and the entire lesbian community, was simple and probably pretty successful.

Watching the scene unfold from my apartment an ocean away, I felt like I'd been punched in the gut.

To the shock, dismay, and sadness of many trans people (full disclosure: I am a transgender woman), Pride in London organizers allowed this group — which had not registered for a spot in the parade — to lead the march.

Watching a number of people in the crowd cheer on this group's efforts to delegitimize people like me as sexual deviants to be driven out from the LGBTQ movement just left me stewing in an sense of overwhelming sadness. Is this really how the larger community sees us? I asked myself. Am I nothing more to them than a man in a dress (my aversion to dresses notwithstanding)?

Pride in London officials offered up a series of justifications for allowing the group in front of the parade before eventually offering up an apology to trans people. It felt like too little too late — but then the internet did something amazing.

People wave gay pride and trans pride flags at the Pride in London parade. Photo by Mark Milan/Getty Images for Barefoot Wine.

The hashtag #LWithTheT began popping up on Twitter alongside videos and statements of support from cisgender lesbians to the trans community.

Members of the LGBTQIA+ community in Brighton and Hove launched the campaign. The posts were simple yet heartfelt. They also meant the absolute world to me.

"We aim to counter hatred with visible solidarity across all women, and cis female lesbians showing love for trans people," read Pride in London's press release. "Trans women are women, and trans lives are not up for debate. The transphobic group does not speak for the lesbian community."

"I was so angry and frustrated that I cried. I'm a lesbian, and these women did not represent me, nor my partner who was on the same bus [in the parade]," says fashion blogger Lottie L'Amour. "I was so disappointed with the handling of the whole thing — I just knew that I had to do something. I immediately went home and donated money to Gendered Intelligence and Mermaids, and then a friend of mine from the community in Brighton told me about the hashtag, and both my fiancee and I got involved straight away."

Trans people belong in the LGBTQ community. We're not some sort of new addition to the mix, either.

The entire concept of Pride stems from the 1969 Stonewall Riots in New York City. The events at Stonewall, in which trans women such as Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera played a leading role, helped spark the modern LGBTQ rights movement. Trans people have been there from the start.

Sure, some of the language may have changed over time, but this movement belongs as much to trans people as it does to anybody else — which is why efforts to boot trans folks are so hurtful.

Some trans people are straight, some are gay, and others are bisexual (another disclosure: I'm bisexual, but happily married to an awesome queer woman) or something else entirely. None of our experiences are the same. A trans woman like me will never know exactly what it's like to be a cis woman, and I'd never claim to know. That's OK. Not all cis women have identical life experiences, either, and that's OK.

We can all exist in the world without trying to invalidate anyone's womanhood or manhood or any other gender, or sexuality.

It's easy to see the actions of a handful of people as representative of an entire group. The #LWithTheT hashtag was a much-needed reminder to me that the women who protested the event, while valid in their identity and their sexuality, do not speak for all in the wider lesbian community.

Being LGBTQ means I exist in a community of beautifully varied individuals. Let's celebrate that, during Pride and all year round.

In late June, folks in Dixon, California, woke to an eye-opening op-ed in their local newspaper.

It was a "Ted Talk" (so to speak) that few residents were asking for.

In an edition of his column "That's Life," Vice Mayor Ted Hickman penned an essay calling for July to be celebrated as "SPAM" — Straight Pride American Month.

Seriously.



And yes, his essay — a rebuke to the LGBTQ Pride Month recognized every June — was as homophobic as you'd expect.


"Now hundreds of millions of the rest of us can celebrate our month, peaking on July 4th, as healthy, heterosexual, fairly monogamous, keep our kinky stuff to ourselves, Americans," Hickman wrote in the nonsensical essay, which, as of writing, can still be read on his website. "We do it with our parades in every state and county in this country with families celebrating together" [emphasis in original].

Also, LGBTQ people are "fairies" who only march in Pride parades for the attention, according to the vice mayor.

He continued, saying that "we honor our country and our veterans who have made all of this possible (including for the tinker bells) and we can do it with actual real pride, not some put on show just to help our inferior complex 'show we are different' type of crap."

So ... where to begin?

Hickman's op-ed clearly displays an abhorrent amount of homophobia. But "Straight Pride" wasn't his creation. The slogan has been used by some social conservatives since at least the 1980s.  

Many Twitter users have rallied around #HeterosexualPrideDay the past few years, causing the hashtag to trend on social media and setting off a debate around its relevance.

In June, some irked Red Sox fans questioned why the team didn't celebrate a "Straight Night" after the club's logo was painted in rainbow colors in honor of LGBTQ Pride. Pop over to Facebook, and you may even be able to find a (totally unironic) "Straight Pride" event in your neck of the woods.

Just to say it: We don't celebrate "Straight Pride Month" for the same reasons we don't celebrate "White Heritage Month" or "Men's History Month."

Privileged groups don't need a day (or week or month) to reflect on their humanity and history because our culture celebrates their humanity and history every day.

If you're straight (or cisgender, or male, or white, or abled, or Christian), that's great! But those parts of your identity haven't been systemically oppressed, like the identities of those — and many other — marginalized groups.

LGBTQ people, for instance, still face discrimination in housing, education, employment, and other aspects of life. So it's not surprising that they report higher rates of mental illness and attempt suicide more frequently. Family rejection helps explains why up to 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ.

When alarming figures like that no longer exist, maybe "Straight Pride" can be on the table. (But probably not.)

Photo by George Frey/Getty Images.

The good news is, many residents in Dixon — and across the state — are not impressed with Hickman's antics.

And the backlash has been swift and furious.

Dixon City Councilman Devon Minnema posted a statement on Facebook shortly after Hickman's essay was published by The Independent Voice, calling the op-ed "deeply disturbing" and encouraging the council to act.

OFFICIAL STATEMENT: The positions of Councilman Hickman published in yesterday’s Independent Voice are deeply...

Posted by City Councilman Devon Minnema on Saturday, June 30, 2018

Rick Zbur, the executive director of LGBTQ advocacy group Equality California, is urging Hickman to resign.

"Despite all the progress we've made, hate and intolerance are alive and well in fringe politicians like Mr. Hickman who spew hateful rhetoric in an attempt to dehumanize members of our LGBTQ community," Zbur said in a statement. "Mr. Hickman's words have no place in our society — especially at a time when our nation is already so divided and studies show hate crimes are on the rise."

A "Recall Ted Hickman" Facebook group has been launched, and as of this writing, has attracted over 1,500 supporters. It's also organizing a city council protest demanding Hickman step down.

"As a straight person I certainly feel no pride in having anything in common with unfunny Hickman," one supporter wrote. "Shame on him."

You may be proud to be straight, vice mayor — but it sounds like many people in Dixon aren't very proud to call you their own.