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You're probably not washing your bathroom towels often enough. Here's why.

That fresh and clean feeling might be getting muddied by dirty towels, and we don't even know it.

Towels might need a little more attention than we realize.

Bathrooms are weird, man. They’re where we go to get clean, and yet they are also breeding grounds for germs, bacteria and every other bit of grossness life has to offer. Seriously, why did we think putting showers and toilets in the same room was a good idea? Even the towels we use to dry off after a good scrubbing…how sanitary are those, really? Are we really washing them enough to prevent us from just rubbing dead skin cells, soap residue, yeasts, and other forms of gunk all over our freshly cleaned bodies?

Many, if not most of us probably throw our towels in the wash once a week. Which, assuming you’re showering daily, would mean after about seven uses. However, a good rule of thumb according to several scientists and laundry experts is to wash towels after every 3-4 uses. For those that only wash their towels once a month, or once a season, or even once a year…buckle up.

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Why changing bath towels is important

Considering that our towels usually don’t show signs of contamination, this might seem like overkill. But what we aren’t seeing are the pathogens that get transferred onto the towel—by our skin, airborne fungi, and yes…bits of human waste…of the fecal sort. Here’s a kindly reminder to always put the seat lid down before flushing.

Interestingly enough, all of these invisible creepy crawlies create a microbial community that, according to a 2023 article in Scientific Reports, is unique from the ones that form on our clothes or bedsheets. And depending on what type of microbial community develops on them, dirty towels could put you at risk for contracting everything from athlete's foot to an eczema flare-up to pink eye or staph (MRSA), just to mention a few. Point being—it’s more than just potentially having a bathroom filled with smelly towels.

Other towel tips

Make sure your towel properly dries between uses

Even if you’re throwing the towel into the hamper to be cleaned, a good rule of thumb is to have it completely dry first in order to avoid funky odors. If your bathroom’s humidity lingers, it might be worth considering moving them to dry elsewhere.

Clean more often if…

…you’re dealing with sickness, a damaged skin barrier due to a rash or open cut, or shower multiple times a day.

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Wash towels the right way

Use a hot water setting and dry on high heat. Ideally, choose a detergent with enzymes to really break down the grime, and consider adding liquid bleach or laundry products with activated oxygen bleach. Obviously, if that doesn't agree with your skin, disregard. But perhaps vinegar is a gentler yet still effective substitute.

Consider skipping anything besides detergent and bleach

While things like fabric softener and scent beads give off a luxury feel, they can also form a lingering residue that only makes the towel more of a breeding ground for germs.

Don't forget to wash your washing machine

Yes, the very device used to remove the bio gunk from our fabrics can be spreading them when not properly sanitized. Every so often, run a cycle without clothes, using bleach or a special formula for cleaning washing machines.

Replace towel every 3 years, and choose wisely

One hundred percent linen towels are naturally moisture-wicking, meaning they dry much faster and are therefore less likely to breed bacteria between uses! But no matter which type of towel you go with, wash before use. Yes, it’s hard to say goodbye to that oh-so soft texture, but the chemicals used to create that texture aren’t always great for us anyway.

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What about other types of towels?

Some towels—like the ones we use for the gym or wiping down the kitchen—are exposed to even gnarlier environments, and require different protocols. Workout towels for instance, which basically get covered in sweat and then sit in a gym bag for hours, need to be cleaned after only one use.

Similarly, past research has found that dish towels house a substantial amount of coliform bacteria E. coli bacteria, which can lead to food poisoning. The fact that many of us simultaneously use a kitchen towel for wiping down surfaces, dishes, and our own hands, certainly doesn't help things. Luckily that same research also showed towels that were washed within three days had less E. coli than those that went more than four days without washing. So, wash kitchen towels at least as often as bath towels, but daily if you’re using them to wipe up spills. Also designate specific towels for specific purposes—one for drying dishes, one for hands, etc..

The bottom line

Of course, there might be environmental or financial reasons for not wanting to wash towels often. And many might continue on with their current laissez-faire routine and suffer no consequences. But this is a good reminder that the essential tools used in our everyday lives require some TLC to keep things running smoothly, and hygienically.

Social skills can be learned and honed.

There are many disadvantages to being socially awkward. In a society where socially adept people are more likely to advance at their jobs, find romantic partners, and forge healthy relationships with friends and family, the dark side is that isolated people have a much shorter lifespan than those with a fulfilling social life.

The good news is that, like most things in life, people can teach themselves to socialize better. Behavioral therapy can also go a long way in making people feel more comfortable around others. But the question remains: how does one know if all the work they put into being more social is paying off? How do you know that your social skills are improving when you never knew what it was like to be a socially comfortable person in the first place? What does progress look like?

A group on Reddit shared what it looks and feels like to improve your social skills. The conversation gave some people a sense of accomplishment, knowing they had learned to become more comfortable in social situations. For others, it provided a roadmap of things to look for as they work to overcome their social discomfort.

Here are 11 best responses to the question: “What are some signs that your social skills are improving?”

1. The cringe is gone

"You don’t cringe as much after talking to people, convos don’t feel forced, and you’re not stressing about what to say next. People actually stick around to chat, too."

2. No need to rehearse

"You're no longer rehearsing every conversation in the shower... just the arguments you'll never have."

"Ah yes, the shower debate championships: where you win every argument flawlessly and deliver Oscar-worthy comebacks... 3 years too late. Honestly, though, if you’re no longer overthinking every casual convo and saving the mental energy just for imaginary mic-drop moments, that’s some serious progress. We love to see it."

3. People want to hang

"When people invite you to hang out. Previous social interactions have made them want to spend more time with you."

"Totally when people start inviting you, it means they actually enjoy being around you. It’s like proof that the effort you’re putting into connecting with others is paying off."


4. Longer conversations

"I think a subtle one is that your conversations tend to last longer. You get less awkward silences, fewer people wanting to leave because you are awkward or no one knows what to say. Also, people are usually more attentive when speaking because your conversation flows better."

"I love this - in addition to what you said, when I'm at my least social / most awkward, I notice that I tend to end conversations pretty quickly, mostly because I'm so anxious about not picking up cues from the other person. I realize that this is kind of the opposite of what you may have been getting at, but I'm finding it to be a helpful reminder that people are not always desperate to leave a conversation as quickly as possible."

5. You can say no

"Saying NO with disregard to how it will affect others feelings."

6. It didn't get weird

"You had a normal conversation where things didn't go weird, and you didn't even notice until afterward."

7. Active listening mode, unlocked

"I love to see all the progress y’all have made in the comments; so wholesome. If you find yourself actively listening more than preparing to respond, it demonstrates a massive improvement."

"Active listening is so huge. One of the best conversation tips is to be more interested in others than in yourself."

People often think that they have to be witty, charming and full of interesting opinions, but, in reality, people will like you if you simply listen. Matt Abrahams, a Stanford communications expert and host of the "Think Fast, Talk Smart" podcast, says people shouldn’t feel pressured to be interesting. In fact, if they want to be liked, they should be more focused on asking thoughtful questions and listening deeply. Simply put, “the goal is to be interested, not interesting,” Abrahams said, paraphrasing matchmaker and author Rachel Greenwald.

“It’s about curiosity,” Abrahams said. “Starting with questions, observing things in context, bringing up relevant information.


8. Define social, please

"It depends on what you define as social skills, but I define it as being able to accomplish things (resolve conflict, make money, make friends, take advantage of people, hurt people, lie to people, whatever it is you want to do) by socializing.
A lot of people (ironically, people without social skills) like to try to flex like they are very socially skilled, but it doesn't actually mean one is a better person."

9. You're involved

"People find the need to involve you. Either a simple text saying that they've done something and wanted to share or inviting you out to join in an event. They enjoy your presence."

10. People make fun of you

"People make fun of you in a banter-y way. They don't do that to people they pity or think will take it the wrong way."

11. 'Pillow words'

"Personally, I've gotten better at being less direct and matter-of-fact. My boss used to tell me all the time to use 'pillow words.' I'm saying the exact same thing, but with more words added and more formalities. My mom would tell me I need to talk to people like they're kindergarteners because people unconsciously talk more sweetly to kids. I still don't entirely understand why adding more words and formalities makes what I say seem nicer when I'm giving them the same message. I still don't get why I need to talk sweetly when I'm just conveying information. But I'm having more positive interactions than before, so I guess I'll keep trying to use them."

Sometimes you see something so mind-boggling you have to take a minute to digest what just happened in your brain. Be prepared to take that moment while watching these videos.

Real estate investor and TikTok user Tom Cruz shared two (now deleted) videos explaining the spreadsheets he and his friends use to plan vacations. They call it the "Forbes List" and it's...well...something. Watch the first one, kindly posted by @Radio_Reem on X:

So, "Broke Bobby" makes $125,000 a year. There's that.

How about the fact that his guy has more than zero friends who budget $80,000 for a 3-day getaway? Y'all, I wouldn't know how to spend $80,000 in three days if you paid me to. Especially if we're talking about a trip with friends where we're all splitting the cost. Like what does this even look like? Are they flying in private jets that burn dollar bills as fuel? Are they bathing in hot tubs full of cocaine? I genuinely don't get it.




But that's not even the full spreadsheet. It might make sense if this guy was just rich, had always been rich, and only knew rich people, therefore making have a friend group made up of multiple millionaires his norm. Surely that's the reality for some born into the 1%.

But that's not the case here. Though the video is no longer gracing TikTok, Cruz shared that he also has a "Welfare 10 List." He says this group of friends who make less than $100K a year call themselves that, and perhaps that's true. (If I were a part of this group, I might call myself a welfare case too because everything's relative and some of these dudes spend more in an hour of vacation than I spend on my mortgage each month.)

To be crystal clear, the top 5 friends on the "Forbes List" are willing to spend more than double what the guy at the bottom of the "Welfare 10 List "makes per year on a 3-day guy's trip. I don't know what to do with this information.

It's like we can see our society's wealth gap all laid out nice and neatly in a spreadsheet, only these people aren't even the uber-wealthy and uber-poor. This is just the range of this one guy's friends.

I have nothing against people who build success and wealth for themselves, and even $5 million per year is hardly obscenely wealthy by billionaire standards. But Cruz says he's known most of his "welfare" friends since college, which presumably means most of those guys have college degrees and are making a pittance in comparison with the "Forbes List." One could claim the guy making $5 million a year just works harder, but does he really work 100 times harder than the guy making $50,000? Doubt it.

Money makes money, and after a certain threshold of wealth or income, it's actually quite easy to get and stay rich without actually "earning" more money (assuming you're reasonably wise and responsible). So, maybe the guys who are willing to shell out $125,000 for a week-long trip should offer to pay the travel expenses of the friends they "hang out with regardless of income" who don't even make that in a year, since that's probably just the interest they're making on their wealth anyway.

But what do I know? This is like an entirely different world to me and probably 99+% of Americans, as evidenced by some of the responses.

Naturally, there will be a range of incomes in any group of people, but 1) most of us don't actually know how much our friends make, and 2) even fewer of us make spreadsheets with that information in order to rank our friends and figure out who can go on which vacations.

People are just endlessly fascinating. That's all I've got.


This article originally appeared three years ago.

Some friends enjoying a polite conversation at a party.

Many people don’t like small talk because it forces them to have conversations about trivial topics such as the weather, what they saw on TV the night before, or their weekend plans. Other people don’t like it because it causes them anxiety to talk with someone they may not know well.

Either way, research shows that small talk actually is a big deal. Julia Korn at Forbes says that small talk enables us to find common ground and shared interests, build muscles to overcome social discomfort, and lays the groundwork for transitioning into more serious, deeper topics.

It also makes us feel good. Studies show that a quick exchange with a barista while getting coffee can result in feelings of belonging and increased happiness.


So, how can we get more out of small talk and make it more comfortable?

Stanford lecturer, podcast host, and communication expert Matt Abrahams told CNBC that one small phrase does both: “Tell me more.”

He learned the phrase's value by listening to his mother, who had “impressive interpersonal skills.” “Her favorite phrase was ‘Tell me more,’ and it happens to be one that people who are good at small talk always use,” Abrahams wrote.

The Stanford expert says that the simple phrase works because it is a “support response” that encourages what the speaker is saying instead of being a “shift response” that brings the conversation back to you.

Suppose you’re talking to someone at a party who’s complaining about a lousy dinner they had at a local steakhouse. “The steak was overcooked, and the service was terrible,” they tell you. A proper support response could be, “Tell me more about the service” or “What else didn’t you like about the dinner?"

“Comments like these give your partner permission to expand on what they said or provide deeper insight,” Abrahams wrote.

On the other hand, a shift response that brings the conversation back to you would be something like, “I once had a bad dinner at a steakhouse…” and then you told that story. People who overuse the shift response are often seen as self-centered or the type of folks who have to make everything about themselves.

That’s a rather annoying personality trait that doesn’t make people a lot of friends or an enjoyable person to work with in the office.

Support responses such as “Tell me more” or “What happened next” are a great way to guarantee that you follow another proven conversation strategy, the 43:57 rule. A marketing whiz over at Gong.io took a deep dive into 25,537 sales calls with the help of AI and discovered a cool tidbit: sales went through the roof when the salesperson chatted 43% of the time and lent an ear for 57%. They've dubbed it the "43:57 rule."

Now, while this gem of wisdom came from business calls, think about our daily chats with friends. It's all about tuning in and showing you care about what the other person has to say. Everyone loves to feel heard and valued.

In the end, the trick to being a great conversationalist isn’t all about being witty, charming, or informed, but simply knowing how to listen.


This article originally appeared last year.