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What happens if you try to kill yourself and survive?

She got so depressed that she tried to kill herself. But when she laid down in front of a train to die, she lived.Trigger warning: Descriptions of death and dying, but no images.

People attempt suicide for many reasons. When we know someone is struggling, we try to tell them all the right things.

But what does the field of suicidology have to say about what reduces suicide?

When the World Health Organization and the Associated Press Managing Editors Association wanted to know how they should talk about newsworthy suicides, David Phillips, a suicidologist at the University of California told them this:


"Think of a suicide story as a kind of commercial. If you make the product attractive, people will want it. But if you say, 'By the way, when a person kills himself, let's say by shooting he looks terrible afterwards.' Or 'When a person poisons himself, he often fouls the bed sheets.' If you talk about the pain and the disfigurement then I thought that would make it less likely that people would be copying the suicide."

The research around negative public portrayals of suicide support this notion. When people talk about suicide in a positive light, people are more likely to attempt suicide. When people talk about suicide in a negative light, people are less like to attempt suicide.

Another suicidologist, Thomas Niederkrotenthaler, says mentioning helplines and telling stories of people who find another way out of their problems can help reduce suicidality in others.

So let's do all of those.

The CDC reports that for every completed suicide, there are 25 failed attempts.

Many of these people (487,700 of them in 2011) end up in the emergency room, seriously injured. Sometimes they recover, but often their bodies are permanently damaged — which is what happened to Helen Galsworthy.

"When I woke up in hospital, my mum was next to me and I said to her, 'I've lost my legs, haven't I?' And she said, 'Yes.'"

Helen lost her legs in her suicide attempt, but she's made a great recovery both emotionally and physically. That's wonderful, but surely it would have been better if she'd been able to get effective help before her attempt — we could have lost her forever.

But it could have been much worse.

Surviving an attempted poisoning with carbon monoxide, chemicals, or prescription medications can permanently damage the brain, heart, esophagus, stomach, intestines, or kidneys. Surviving a long fall can result in disfigurement, internal organ damage, shattered bones, or paralysis.

Surviving a shot from a firearm can result in brain damage or paralysis. Or worse, a person may survive only long enough to feel pain and regret, but not long enough to be saved.

Kevin Briggs is a retired California Highway Patrol officer whose beat included the south end of the Golden Gate Bridge, one of the most popular places in the world for suicide attempts.

In his 23 years of service, he responded to countless reports of suicidal citizens on the bridge. Here's what he has to say:

If someone you know is struggling, be a compassionate support for them and don't be afraid to show them what can happen if they try to take their lives.

If you are struggling, seek help. Suicide is messy and potentially permanent. Recovery can also be messy, but it too can be permanent.

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A volunteer hands out food in a food bank and Meg Sullivan shares her dad's kind gesture.

When we consider people who have had a positive impact on the world, we often think of those who have made grand gestures to improve the lives of others, such as Martin Luther King, Jr., Greta Thunberg, or Mahatma Gandhi. Unfortunately, that type of effort is out of reach for the average person.

However, O Organics would like to remind everyone that they can positively impact the world through small, consistent acts of kindness that add up over time. Much like how a small creek can create a valley over the years, we can change lives through small, consistent acts of kindness.

O Organics is dedicated to the well-being of all by nourishing people everywhere with delicious organic foods grown by producers who meet USDA-certified organic farming standards.

Upworthy's Instagram page recently posted a touching example of everyday kindness. Meg Sullivan shared how her father, Tom, peeled oranges for her lunch just about every day from kindergarten through high school. But on the final day of her senior year of high school, he sent his 17-year-old daughter unpeeled oranges with a touching note about how she’d have to start peeling them for herself.



“It’s Time Baby Girl,” he wrote on a wikiHow printout on how to peel an orange with a drawing of himself crying. For the father, this daily ritual was about more than just making lunch; it was about showing that he cared by going the extra mile. “I could have put money on her lunch account,” Tom told Today.com. “But it’s one of those little things I thought was important, that she knows somebody’s taking the time to take care of her.”

The small, daily gesture taught Megan an essential lesson in kindness.

The post reminded people how their fathers’ small acts of kindness meant so much to them. “My dad peeled my oranges until I graduated high school, too. Now, I peel my daughter’s oranges and will for the next 7 plus years,” Katie wrote in the comments. “Love this. My dad peeled mine, too. When I moved out, he gave me an orange peeler gadget,” Mary added.

o organics, albertson's giving backO Organics has a wide array of foods and flavors covering almost everything on your shopping list.via Albertson's

Did you know that every time you go to the supermarket, you can also change the world through small gestures? O Organics not only allows you to feed your family delicious and nutritious organic food, but each purchase also gives back to help people and communities facing food insecurity.

Through contributions from customers like you, O Organics donates up to 28 million meals annually. The company’s contribution is essential when, according to the USDA, 47.4 million Americans live in food-insecure households.

O Organics has a wide array of foods and flavors covering almost everything on your shopping list. “Over the years, we have made organic foods more accessible by expanding O Organics to every aisle across our stores, making it possible for health and budget-conscious families to incorporate organic food into every meal,” Jennifer Saenz, EVP and Chief Merchandising Officer at Albertsons, one of many stores where you can find O Organics products, said in a statement.

O Organics now offers over 1500 items, from dairy products such as eggs and milk to packaged meats and breakfast staples such as cereal bars, granola and oatmeal. You can also enjoy affordable organic produce with O Organics’ fresh salads and fruit.

Everybody wants to make the world a better place. With O Organics, you can feed your family healthy, organic food every time you go to the market while paying it forward by contributing to the company’s efforts to end food insecurity nationwide. That’s a small, daily gesture that can amount to incredible change.

Celebrity

In 2006, the Oscars secretly pressured Heath Ledger to make fun of gay people. He wasn't having it.

Jake Gyllenhaal shared the story of his late Brokeback Mountain co-star's kindness.

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Heath Ledger stayed true to his convictions. He stood up for what he believed in, and it didn't matter if it was in a casual conversation with a friend, on a press junket, or at the Oscars. In a resurfaced video making the rounds, Heath was on the Brokeback Mountain press tour and was asked by an interviewer, "How do you respond to people who suggest this is disgusting?"

Heath seems initially taken aback by the question. He ponders for a moment and then says, "Well, I think it's immature, for one. I think it's an incredible shame that people go out of their way to voice their disgust or negative opinions about the way two people wish to love one another."

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He then expresses how some might be focusing on the wrong things. "At least voice your opinions on how two people share hate and violence and anger towards each other. Isn't that more important? I think so."

Brokeback Mountain is a 2005 film starring Ledger alongside Jake Gyllenhaal, about two sheep herders in Wyoming who find love with one another. It was adapted from a short story by Annie Proulx, originally published in The New Yorker in 1997.

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In discussing the movie itself (which won three Academy Awards in 2006, including Best Director for Ang Lee, Best Adapted Screenplay, and Best Original Score), Heath explained, "It's obviously about two men in love. It's gay-themed and easily labeled. The pure fact of it is, it transcends labels. It's the story of two human beings—two souls who are in love."

He truly wanted to make sure that audiences (including the press) understood the entire point of the film. "We're showing that love between two men is just as infectious and emotional and strong and pure as it is with heterosexual love."

While this clip has popped up many times over the years, an interview with Jake Gyllenhaal in 2020 definitively confirmed how important these themes were to Heath. In an interview with Another Man magazine, he discusses how the whole production came together. “There are things you’re chosen for—a quality, an essence—and Ang did that. And it’s still a mystery to me. And something that Heath and I shared: that it was a mystery to us at the time.”

Jake emphasized that Heath put his foot down when some writers of the Oscars telecast wanted to make light of Brokeback Mountain. "I mean, I remember they wanted to do an opening for the Academy Awards that year that was sort of joking about it. And Heath refused. I was sort of at the time, 'Oh, okay... Whatever.' I'm always like, 'It's all in good fun.' And Heath said, 'It's not a joke to me. I don't want to make any jokes about it.'"

According to WION News, Jake reminisced, "That's the thing I loved about Heath. He would never joke. Someone wanted to make a joke about the story or whatever, he was like, 'No. This is about love. Like, that's it, man.'"

Joy

A dad going through divorce shares the sweet messages his kids send him on their tablets

He says installing a messenger app helped them stay connected, even when apart.

Who wouldn't want a sweet message like that?

For parents going through divorce, one of the most painful challenges is becoming separated from their children. Even if both parents are doing everything they can to co-parent peacefully and fairly, it doesn’t fix not being able to share a meal with their little one everyday, tuck them in every night, and otherwise condense all those little, yet oh-so precious and irreplaceable moments of childhood into a few days a week.

And of course, kids feel this too, in ways that can greatly impact their sense of security, self worth, cause issues at home, etc. Which can only lead to more guilt for the parents, and so the cycle continues. Again, even with the most amenable, divorce isn’t easy for anyone involved.

On the bright side, we do live in an age where staying in touch is easier than ever, especially when we come up with creative ways to do so. One dad, who’s currently going through a divorce, recently shared how even though he no longer lives with his own children, he still talks to them every day while at work, thanks to a messenger app he installed on their kiddy tablets.

As the dad, named Tyler, told Newsweek, he had already been chatting with his "super tech-savvy” kiddos via Discord, however, when they were given tablets as Christmas gifts, one of his sons showed an interest in Facebook messenger, which was easy to install a kid’s version of, and ended up being perfect for keeping in touch until they could meet IRL.

Tyler shared a small sample of what a typical conversation might look like on Reddit (below), likely from his seven year old who is usually the one to leave “sweet” messages.


Tyler’s post quickly racked up 28,000 views, and inspired a ton of support in the comments, including from others who have been through similar situations, and wanted to encourage him that things get better.

“Divorce sucks....being a great dad doesn't! Keep up the great work & stay positive!”

“No better feeling than an unprompted ‘I love you’ from your child, stay strong buddy you're doing a great job parenting…”

“You are the hero of the world for your kids and that will never change cuz you did everything right💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽don't forget that ever my brother.”

A few short words shared on a screen, however simple, can make all the difference to keep loved ones in each other’s lives. This is an aspect of technology that, even with all its faults, shouldn’t be taken for granted, and we see it so clearly through Tyler’s story. He even recommended that other parents install some kind of messaging app on their kids’ tablet. After all, “it's a free way to increase communication with your children, and anybody who doesn't get to see their kids all the time can see how that would be a great thing."

Not only is it free, it’s quite easy as well. To install Messenger Kids on an Amazon Fire Tablet (which is how Tyler did it) open the Amazon Appstore on your device, search for "Messenger Kids", download and install the app; make sure you are logged in with your parent account to set up the child's profile and manage access through the Parent Dashboard.

Alternatively, to install Messenger Kids on a tablet, open the App Store on your tablet, search for "Messenger Kids", and download the app; you will need to log in with your Facebook account to authorize the device and create a separate account for your child within the app. Badda bing, baddam boom.

No matter how you do it, hopefully you’re able to give a quick “I love you” to someone in your life today.

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Nearly two years of learning a language…something's had to have stuck.

In the age of algorithms and keywords and incredibly steep competition, people have to be more strategic and creative than ever to secure a good job. Especially when it comes to drafting a resume that stands out amongst hundreds of others.

Recently, one job recruiter was so impressed by one job seeker’s clever idea of listing their 671-day Duolingo streak—alongside a fluency in English and limited American Sign Language —under the "languages" section in their resume that he decided to share it online.

According to Newsweek, the job recruiter, named Bilal Ashrafov, was pleasantly surprised, and had even considered including something similar on his own resume, “but wasn't sure if it would come across as professional.”

“Seeing someone take that first step made me reflect on its relevance,” he said, noting that “a long-standing Duolingo streak can demonstrate dedication and continuous learning,” even if the popular app only requires a minute of practice a day.

After sharing the resume onto Reddit, others seemed to agree, and commended the potential employee for their innovative approach.

"Imagine explaining that in an interview—'I'm not just consistent, I'm Duolingo consistent!'" one viewer quipped.

Another commented, "If I was hiring, I would definitely interview this person."

Still another said, "It got noticed, didn't it? Sounds like not too bad of an idea."

Considering that there are a few ways folks can keep their Duolingo streak intact without truly getting proficient in a language, like continuing to purchase streak freezes, this idea might never take on as the new resume must-have. But, on a much broader scale, this story highlights the need to bring a bit of ourselves to our resumes. As the concept of portfolio careers, or a career that includes multiple income streams, rather than a single job title, becomes more and more mainstream, we’ve seen people find great success in listing what they uniquely bring to the table, professional or otherwise.

When it comes to adding resume items that pop, and offer a true reflection for who you really are, think about including:

Soft skills:

These are personal qualities that describe how you work and interact with others, such as conflict resolution or time management, and they are not only gaining importance across the workforce, but are highly transferable across different types of work.

Personal projects:

Whether you got paid for these isn’t paramount here. If you led a community initiative your passionate about, or even have a long-standing blog about something that interests you, this could be included.

Technical skills beyond the job description:

Do you have a proficiency in certain programs, like coding languages, data visualization, project management, etc? Even if a job doesn’t specifically ask for these skills, they could be helpful additions.

Creative or unique hobbies:

You never know what interesting conversations your oddball pastime might inspire, if anything else. So don’t be embarrassed if you’re a wiz a Photoshopping old-timey puppy portraits or engage in recreating Scandinavian folk tunes with GarageBand.

Community involvement:

This can be your volunteering roles, and mentorship programs you might have participated in, or even charities you have close ties to.

Academic achievements:

Include relevant published research papers or presentations, and awards or honors you received during your studies, or any significant contributions you might have made to a research project

These are just a few suggestions to get you started. Include a few, or perhaps your own impressive Duolingo streak, or something else. Just remember, sometimes it pays to think outside the box.

Darryl Vega at the airport.

Twenty-twenty-five has brought an unexpected development in America. Several high-profile aviation accidents have made travelers skittish about flying the friendly skies. Although the disturbing stories are frightening, aviation experts say it’s still the safest way to travel. A Massachusetts Institute of Technology study from last March found there’s about a 1 in 13.7 million chance a person traveling on an airplane could die anywhere in the world.

The recent incidents may have many people rattled. Still, one fearless traveler, Darryl Vega, who moved to America from Nigeria 20 years ago, is going viral because he believes it’s not just planes that people should worry about. Vega says that we should be concerned no matter where they are, even on foot. Vega was filmed at the airport, giving a rather verbose take on the current state of transportation in the United States.

“Every time you open your phone the plane has crashed somewhere,” Vega says. “If it's not the one crashing in Alaska is commercial airline that is crashing, and if you somehow even fly on the commercial and somehow you make it through the most of the flight and you're about to land, military helicopter will come out from nowhere and come and spoil everything.”

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Vega’s bit begins with the simple idea that flying in a plane is becoming scarier these days. But throughout the video, it’s taken to extremes, and Vega warns that almost every form of transportation is dangerous. Heck, Vega thinks it’s not even wise to stay home. “The the plane might even crash one street over [and] the propeller will find its way to your living room,” Vega says. So what can we do when danger lurks in every home, air, and streets? Vega thinks you should buy life insurance.

The video was a massive hit on Instagram, and some people thought Vega’s monologue perfectly mirrored their internal monologs when they're feeling anxious. "If intrusive thoughts had a great personality," SarahJay wrote. Others just found it hilarious. "I know the interviewer forgot what they even asked you about," Natasha wrote. "He had me at “military helicopter will come out from nowhere and spoil everything,” lfeinthetime added.


Some of you may have realized that the interview goes on pretty long for a news clip, and, yes, that’s because it was a comedy sketch made by Vega, who runs the Darryl Vega TV YouTube page. But the video is convincing because of the way he edited in a newscaster introducing the bit and had a b-roll of him wandering throughout the airport. Also, you must love Vega’s commitment to the bit; he delivers it in perfect deadpan.

Vega says he has received a Master’s in Taxation and worked as a public accountant. He’s known for making skits in which his character fumbles job interviews, fails to get a green card, and has trouble directly answering a reporter's questions.

In this video from 2024, Vega tells an HR representative interviewing him for a job that he went to Harvard.

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Most of us had one of those neighbors growing up—the one who gave us the stink eye if we so much as looked at their perfectly mowed lawn and shooed us away if even our shadows crept onto their flower beds. There's a reason "Get off my lawn!" was a meme before memes were even a thing.

Then there are neighbors who rock. The ones who smile and wave through the window and share their fresh-baked cookies with the neighborhood kids. The folks who genuinely enjoy the vibrant energy that children bring to the block and embrace the idea of "it takes a village."

When one of the guys behind Canyon Chasers, a motorcycle enthusiast website, shared a video of how he handled a kid who kept playing in his driveway when he wasn't home, it wasn't clear at first which kind of neighbor he was going to be. But then he explains how his security footage showed a preschooler riding his bike around his flat concrete driveway every evening, and how he decided to do something about it.

And what ensued was the best Anti-Get-Off-My-Lawn move that ended up pleasing more neighbors than he anticipated.

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How fun would that have been when you were a kid? And how great that he made a new one each time it rained? And how delightful is it that people of all ages showed up to enjoy it?

Imagine a world where all neighbors were this thoughtful and generous with their time and property. More of this, please.


This article originally appeared five years ago.